I saw this quote today & it hit me pretty hard. The past few weeks have given me more clarity than I could have ever imagined as I saw my husband in a new light; almost every day. But, I was also beginning to see those around me in a new light, too.
If you TRULY know me, you know I'm one of the sassiest & moodiest girls out there. There was a time in my life where I had no filter on what I posted on social media & I would intentionally post things directed towards one person. Unfortunately, that person was the person I love most in this world: Jeremy (who at the time was my boyfriend/fiancé). It wasn't until a dear person (that shall remain anonymous) messaged me privately & shared their concern with my posts.
CLEARLY, such things were not meant for the world to see. And my sweet Jeremy, was more than undeserving of my harshness. Even though I don't like being confronted when I'm in the wrong, I knew deep down that my actions were hurtful & would have serious repercussions if I didn't mature.
Now that I am married & we have gone through our fair share of triumphs & tribulations; I would never want anyone to view my soulmate in such a dark & judgmental light that I once was selfishly using (to quite frankily, hurt him) so that maybe he would tend to whatever it was I felt he was not. The fact of the matter is, posting something on social media will not fix a thing. Let me clarify: putting down your significant other (or anyone for that matter) in public is WRONG & is not the way to get their attention to understand your point of view or better the situation. IT HURTS.
I also have struggled, especially during our long distance days, with comparing our relationship to others. You are both unique individuals that do not deserve to compete with anyone, but the people you were yesterday. Be you. Be the couple that only y'all can be & are meant to be. Be free. Encourage each other to be the best versions of yourselves every day.
Do not look at what he is not, but look at what he is.
Jeremy may not be the greatest sweet talker or he may not know how to cook or use the dishwasher, but he has saved me from being some of the worst versions of myself.
This man has never once taken advantage of me, put me in a position to go against my faith/values, degraded me, or forced me to do something I didn't want to. He has never been my enemy. So why should I treat him as such?
This man has fed me, clothed me, shaved my legs for me, prayed for me, carried me, put a roof over my head even when I could not do those things for myself. He's the best part of me.
And I want the world to know what he IS, & not worry so much with what he is not.
Take a good look at the people around you & start giving them the credit they deserve for who they are.
Because I promise there is someone out there who is NOT what they are.
"Do not look at what he is not, look at what he is." <3
If you TRULY know me, you know I'm one of the sassiest & moodiest girls out there. There was a time in my life where I had no filter on what I posted on social media & I would intentionally post things directed towards one person. Unfortunately, that person was the person I love most in this world: Jeremy (who at the time was my boyfriend/fiancé). It wasn't until a dear person (that shall remain anonymous) messaged me privately & shared their concern with my posts.
CLEARLY, such things were not meant for the world to see. And my sweet Jeremy, was more than undeserving of my harshness. Even though I don't like being confronted when I'm in the wrong, I knew deep down that my actions were hurtful & would have serious repercussions if I didn't mature.
Now that I am married & we have gone through our fair share of triumphs & tribulations; I would never want anyone to view my soulmate in such a dark & judgmental light that I once was selfishly using (to quite frankily, hurt him) so that maybe he would tend to whatever it was I felt he was not. The fact of the matter is, posting something on social media will not fix a thing. Let me clarify: putting down your significant other (or anyone for that matter) in public is WRONG & is not the way to get their attention to understand your point of view or better the situation. IT HURTS.
I also have struggled, especially during our long distance days, with comparing our relationship to others. You are both unique individuals that do not deserve to compete with anyone, but the people you were yesterday. Be you. Be the couple that only y'all can be & are meant to be. Be free. Encourage each other to be the best versions of yourselves every day.
Do not look at what he is not, but look at what he is.
Jeremy may not be the greatest sweet talker or he may not know how to cook or use the dishwasher, but he has saved me from being some of the worst versions of myself.
This man has never once taken advantage of me, put me in a position to go against my faith/values, degraded me, or forced me to do something I didn't want to. He has never been my enemy. So why should I treat him as such?
This man has fed me, clothed me, shaved my legs for me, prayed for me, carried me, put a roof over my head even when I could not do those things for myself. He's the best part of me.
And I want the world to know what he IS, & not worry so much with what he is not.
Take a good look at the people around you & start giving them the credit they deserve for who they are.
Because I promise there is someone out there who is NOT what they are.
"Do not look at what he is not, look at what he is." <3